My dear friends…

Last week in this space I said that in this present issue of the Weekly Bulletin we would look at something very important. Namely: If you believe that Who You Are is God, “particularized” (which Conversations with God invites us all to do), then you will necessarily conclude that it is impossible for you to be damaged or hurt in any way. And THAT has extraordinary implications for your life…

Imagine what life would be like if you thought that this way true. I mean, if you really believed that you cannot be hurt or damaged in any way. The implications would be enormous, indeed.

To begin with, you would never again find yourself experiencing a need for approval. At least, not the kind of need that emerges from a fear of some kind of consequence should you not be approved of by someone.

Indeed, fear of “consequence” in every and any situation would be a thing of the past. Would this promote aberrant or unacceptable behavior on the part of many people? There are those who say that the absence of the Fear of Consequences would be a blow to human morals, because people would feel perfectly free to act inappropriately. Yet Conversations with God tells us that this would not be the case.

Human beings, CwG says, are not motivated to behave well because of fear of what will happen if they don’t. Human beings are motivated to behave well because they hold a particular image of themselves — that is, because they see themselves as a certain kind of person. “Every act,” the text tells us, “is an act of self-definition.” Once people understand this, their behaviors are affected forever.

Thus, in a world with no laws, no punishments, no “down side” to “bad behavior,” such behavior would nevertheless not flourish.

Elimination of the Fear of Consequence is not limited to consequences in the form of “punishments.” It also applies to consequences in the form of things simply not turning out right, not showing up the way we expect them to. Once we no longer worry about whether a particular decision or course of action is going to produce a particular outcome, we are free to choose whatever course of action we wish — whatever course most pleases us or most excites us or most inspires us — without regard to whether it has a high probability of “succeeding” or not.

Indeed, our whole definition of “succeeding” would change. A thing might be said to have “succeeded” if it was simply done, instead of only if it produced a given result. In short, we would all be a lot more daring if we felt we could not be hurt, damaged, or destroyed by any outcome. Imagine where your own life would be right now if you had only been a bit more daring at a few junctures in your life.

The invitation of the New Spirituality is to act as if the idea of damage was just that: an idea, simply a thought, having nothing to do with ultimate reality. If you had acted fearlessly — utterly fearlessly — at certain junctures in your life, where could your life be today? That is a fair and important question.

The New Spirituality draws us deeper and deeper into a central, galvanizing and coalescing question: Who are we? I mean, who are we, really…?

And…your answer, please?

We opened the Foundation’s 5-Day East Coast retreat this week in Baltimore. Its purpose is to answer that question — and to render the answer practical in everyday life. Our next such program will be in December…and no, it is not too early for you to enroll. In the meantime, who are you? And what steps have you taken to demonstrate that in everyday life?

Love and Hugs,
Neale.

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Further explorations of the Conversations with God material from the author

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Neale Donald Walsch through the years has given hundreds of talks and written scores of articles revolving around the messages he received in his Conversations with God. Now, every seven days, we will present in this space a transcript or reprint of those presentations. We invite you to Copy and Save each one of them, creating a personal a collection of contemporary and uplifting spiritual thought which you may reference at any time. We hope you will find this a constant source of insight and inspiration.

This week’s offering: The last in a 3-part series of reflections on relationships offered in commentaries during the days preceding Valentine’s Day, 2007. This commentary will continue over the next three editions of the Weekly Bulletin because the subject deserves all the attention we can give it.

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Sexuality in Relationships

Beginning the dialogue
In all romantic relationships there is nothing more fun than taking off your clothes and touching and being touched in intimate and pleasurable ways. There may be things that are just as much fun, but I can scarcely think of anything that would be more fun.
Even in human relationships that are not necessarily deeply romantic, where two people would describe themselves simply as “friends” (or even as “acquaintances”), the sexual act can have enormous attraction and can bring mountains of in-the-moment pleasure.
These things are obvious to everyone. There’s nothing new here. This is not the Revelation of the Century. Yet with all that we know and all that we understand about human sexuality, with all that we have experienced and all that we have encountered in this area of human interaction, so many of us are still in a place of confusion with regard to the expression of our sexuality.
We are confused about whether to become sexual with another, about when to become sexual with another, and about why to become sexual with another. And some of us are confused about how to become sexual with another.
I find that among people who have committed themselves to a spiritual path especially, these questions can often be among the most pressing and among the most challenging.
There has been been, for centuries on this planet, an interesting thought about sexuality and spirituality which holds that the two do not mix. This thought suggests that sexuality is part of our “lower nature,” while spiritual pursuits are part of our “higher nature.” This has not been a casual, stray thought wafting its way through the higher regions of human experience over these past centuries and millennia. This has, in fact, been a deeply rooted thought, dictating and determining and directing the day day-to-day experience of the largest portion of humanity.
We are ashamed of our bodies, or consider them to be at the very least inappropriately erotic stimulations. And so we have made it a against the law to show our bodies to each other except in the most extraordinary or private and personal circumstances.
So ashamed are we of our bodies that many of us can’t even call our body parts by their accurate and actual biological names without some degree of embarrassment. And with our children and grandchildren we rarely do so, preferring to use a series of cutesy nicknames and substitute monikers such as “bottom” and “wee-wee.”
Small wonder that when we arrive at the age when we begin to experience our sexuality, so many of us have no idea of how to do that appropriately. We find it difficult and challenging to allow ourselves to experience our sexual nature naturally, joyously, shamelessly, adventurously, expansively, or lovingly, without hesitation, awkwardness, or embarrassment.
So upset are we about all of this, so ashamed and confused and embarrassed and convoluted are we around all of this, that in many communities and places we don’t even allow ourselves to teach in our schools what we were never allowed to learn when we were in school.
So upset are we about all of this, so ashamed and confused and embarrassed and convoluted are we around all of this, that we become angry and storm out of theaters when the act of sexual love is graphically depicted on our movie screens…while we have no trouble whatsoever with the accurate — the oh-so-accurate — depiction of physical violence.
The picturing of heads being lopped off and bodies being blown to pieces and blood oozing from open wounds is perfectly okay, but the picturing of simple frontal nudity, to say nothing of intercourse — is way, way, way out of bounds.
What an interesting set of values we humans have! What an interesting point of view! And what a confusing and complex set of standards we are asked to embrace and use as our guideline in the living of our lives.
Now along comes Conversations with God to help us in these and other matters; to help us as we bravely attempt to navigate the treacherous white-water rivers of the human lifestream.
This is not the only book to have some things to say on these subjects. It is not the first, nor will it be the last. But it does offer some marvelously refreshing perspectives on the topic of human sexuality and its connection to human spirituality — and on a great many other topics as well.
We shall explore these insights in some of the blogs just ahead. Stay tuned. And do offer your thoughts as well, in the Comments Section of this blog.

When to first have sex?
Too late, you’re already doing it!
In all new relationships with romantic potential (and you all know exactly which ones those are) a single question looms large: When do we become sexual?
In order to answer that question we must ask a larger one: What IS sexuality, anyway?
If we do not understand what sexuality is, we will not understand when to express ourselves in a sexual way. So here is the truth about sexuality that nobody ever told you: You are always expressing yourself in a sexual way. There is no way not to be expressing yourself in a sexual way. LIFE is a sexual experience. Life IS sex.
Conversations with God tells us that “sex” is the word we use to describe the experience of Synergistic Energy eXchange. The only thing is, we have it in our minds that this kind of energy exchange is limited to contact with certain body parts, when in fact it describes our contact with everything.
Everything we do is sexual. Sex is the Energy of Life, and the exchange of that Energy is Life Itself, expressing. Life creates more life through the process of life itself. It is by the exchange of Its Own Energy that Life does this. The process that we call “photosynthesis” is the synthesis of chemical compounds with the aid of radiant energy, and especially light. It is how the sun makes plants grow. It is also how we make each other grow.
Never thought of it that way, eh…? Well, it is. Human beings grow, they become larger in soul, in spirit, and in their hearts and minds, when they experience love. And Love is “the synthesis of chemical compounds with the aid of radiant energy, especially light.” When you send love to someone, you radiate energy. Literally. You radiate energy.
In fact, you radiate energy all the time, not just went you send someone love. The question is not whether you are radiating energy, but what kind of energy are you radiating? That is the only question in life that really matters. “What kind of energy am I radiating now—?” Whatever you radiate is reflected back to you. You receive what you send. What goes around, comes around.
Everyone else is continually radiating energy, too. Conversations with God calls this process Synergistic Energy eXchange. So, you are having S.E.X. all the time. The question is not whether you are having sex, but what kind of sex are you having?
I am not just playing with words here. I truly am not. This is the real answer to the question, “When should I start having sex in my new relationship?” It is important to understand that you are always “having sex” in your relationship — and the way in which you do that will provide the answer to the questions you may have regarding the physical activities of your body.
For now, start your new relationships in a new way. Indeed, start every relationship in a new way. You can do this each day…for each day, every relationship is a new relationship. You are capable of recreating yourself anew in every golden moment of Now, and you are creating every relationship you have all over from the beginning each time you lay eyes on that other person. Did you know that? It does not have to be what it was yesterday. Nor do you have to be who you were yesterday.
Whether your present relationship is new or old, you can begin having good sex right now, today. Declare and decide that your Synergistic Energy eXchange with your Special Other will be filled with light and love, understanding and acceptable, compassion and forgiveness, celebration and joyous recognition. Joyously recognize, each time you speak to that person, the wonder and the glory of Who They Really Are. See Godliness in them each time you see them at all. Smile at the gift that they are to life. When they say, “What are you smiling at, you little cutie…?”, just reply: “I’m smiling at the gift that you are. I’m feeling The Gift. And it’s making me smile.” Watch that change your day!

Final Thoughts About All This
Let’s take a final look at what Conversations with God has to say about love and relationships.
Most people, God said to me, enter into relationships for the wrong reason. The purpose of relationship is for us to create a context within which we might announce and declare, express and fulfill, our highest notion of who we really are. Very few people understand romantic relationships in this way.
I certainly didn’t in my life, and since I have been given this information I have found myself challenged at the very highest level. I have not always met the challenge. Indeed, I have failed time and time again to fulfill the highest notion I have had about myself in my relationships with others. Yet I believe that by my failures I have grown, and come to know more and more about what it means to be truly loving.
The first person that I have to be truly loving with, is myself. I know that sounds like nothing more than a shallow cliché, but I assure you that it is profoundly true — and immensely important. Loving oneself does not mean being selfish. It does mean not becoming a chameleon, not allowing yourself to change colors and change truths and change intentions and change the way it is that you are as an individual human being simply to keep another person in the room. It means loving yourself enough to be authentically YOU even if it looks like doing so will cause others to depart.
What will happen, in truth, is that certain people will depart, but certain other people will join you in your life in a new and powerful way. They will join you because they resonate with who you are. They are in harmony with the very essence of your being. They agree with your agenda. They hold the same intentions. They are compatible with you in many ways. They are not the same as you, but they are compatible. I cannot begin to tell you how important this is. A person cannot know — nor can you — whether or not they are compatible unless they know who you are in your Truthful Being.
This is a phrase that I have coined to describe a person who lives in, and comes from, his or her truth in every moment. I made a New Year’s resolution a few weeks ago. My resolution reads like this: “Tell your truth as soon as you know it.” For years I did not do this. In fact, for most of my life I have lied. I told small lies and big lies, trivial lies and important lies. And I did it because I felt that it served me to do it. Now I see that nothing has disserved me more. So old so soon, so smart so late.
And so I invite you to love yourself as you have never loved yourself before. Love yourself enough to speak your deepest truth to everyone whose life you touch. And especially to your Significant Other. Please speak to your Beloved from your place of transparency and total visibility in every moment. Hide nothing. Shield nothing. Stand naked before your Beloved not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well. Let yourself be seen, let yourself be known exactly as you are. This will be the greatest gift you could ever give to anyone, and the most wonderful present you could give to the person with whom you share your life.
And so, this is not only an act of self-love, but an act of enormous love for another as well. For the willingness to be absolutely vulnerable and completely without defense in the space of another is the highest tribute that one heart can pay to a second human being. It says more than all the store-bought gifts could possibly ever convey. And it tells more about you than anything else you could possibly do in order to communicate who you are and how much you love.
The willingness to lose another rather than hold them in your life under false pretenses is the highest act of love. And the irony of all this is that having the courage to share what it is that you are certain will drive the other person away… is very often precisely what inspires them to stay. For they then know that they are not living with an “image” of you, but with a reality. A truth. The authentic article. The real thing.
Most people can live with reality. What they can’t live with is false hopes, misplaced dreams, and the knowledge that they cannot trust the words that come from the mouth of the person they love — not because that person is mean or cruel or deliberately trying to be hurtful, but simply because that person is so wounded that he or she cannot speak in words that can be trusted. They do not know their own truth. Because they have never identified it. Because they have never had the urge to speak it and to declare it and to announce it for fear of losing another. The result is that they have lost many others, over and over again in their life.
People with whom I counsel ask me how they can announce their truth to another when they do not even know it. They ask me to help them identify their truth, to come to understand who they really are and what they really want. I tell them that they must begin by simply verbalizing their truth. They must begin by talking. Out loud. To others. About everything.
How they feel. What they want right now. It may be quite true that many people do not know what they want in the long run, but it is not true that people do not know what they want right here and now. Everyone knows what he or she wants right here, right now. Everyone knows that. It is merely a question of whether we will have the courage to speak our truth about that. If we hold that truth in, and if we have done so for years, we literally lose touch with the essence of who we are and what we desire. We fall into a quiet resentment. We begin living lives of quiet desperation. We say less and less. We think more and more. We turn inward. And our significant relationship with our beloved other becomes unfulfilling — and we don’t even know why.
So today give the gift of truth. Just tell the truth. Tell the good truth and the bad truth. Say the words that you know will be welcomed, and the words that you know will not. Be brave. Be courageous. Be authentic. Be truthful. And in so being, be the essence of love itself.

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MONEY - LOVE - SEX - GOD

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My dear friends…

I am in San Francisco as I write this, preparing to deliver a talk tonight (Friday evening) as part of first-day activities at the New Life Expo. My presentation is called Happy At Last, and is the first of three programs I will be giving here. Tomorrow (Saturday) I will be participating in a panel discussion with, among others, Terry Cole-Whittaker, one of life’s wonderful spiritual Introducers. It was she, along with the late Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, who opened the doors for me to a whole new way of thinking about life and God and myself. I will always be grateful to Terry, and it is an honor to be presenting on the same panel with her.

Then on Sunday I’ll be offering a two-and-a-half hour workshop called Change Everything, based on Reality Technology, as introduced and wonderfully explained in my latest book, When Everything Changes, Change Everything. To be released on May 11 (they’ve moved it up a few days), this book deeply explores what I have come to call the Mechanics of the Mind and the System of the Soul, describing how, through integration of the two, we can create, truly, the life of which we have dreamed and for which we were designed.

This evening I will be focusing on the messages in Happier Than God, and I would like to share with you now some of the thoughts I will be bringing to the audience in San Francisco tonight, by offering here a few excerpts from that book, published in February, 2008.

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We do not need God for anything.

It’s true. But know this. Not needing God is not the same as not having any use for God.
I want to say that twice because it’s too important to be glossed over. I said, not needing God is not the same as not having any use for God.
In fact, it is precisely because we have an extraordinary use for God that we have no need for God.
How can we “need” something that we always have, that we cannot not have under any circumstances, that we can always use, and that we cannot not use no matter how we might deny that we are?
You cannot not have God in your life, as part of your life, and this is something that many people cannot believe. They can’t believe the highest promise of God: I am always with you, even unto the end of time.
You cannot not use God, even if you deny that you are, and this is something else that many people cannot believe. They can’t accept the most wonderful truth taught by all religions, each in their own way:
Ask and you shall receive.
Because people can’t accept this truth, they completely and utterly misunderstand the formula by which they can create what they wish to experience in their lives.
I call this formula the Process of Personal Creation-what some people call the “Law of Attraction”-and it does not render God obsolete, but exactly the opposite. It makes our experience of God more present, more relevant, and more real than ever.
The book Happier Than God explains all of this in wonderful detail. I hope you have had a chance to read it!

Love and Hugs,
Neale.

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This week’s offering: A radio interview over the Internet in 2004 that delves into many of the messages of Conversations with God from a layman’s point of view. This transcript contains small edits and includes a few additional words here and there written in by Neale while reading the original transcript, in order to clarify a point.

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Internet Radio Interview with Neale Donald Walsch
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Matt: Welcome, everyone.

This is Matt Clarkson of SpiritualGrowthMonthly.com. With me today is someone we might call a modern-day prophet. He’s a best-selling author; in fact, his books have been translated into many languages and sold all over the world.

They’re actually about to bring out an up-and coming film, which we’re all really looking forward to. He’s literally helping to redefine the world’s understanding of God and spirituality. So without any more mystery, let me introduce our guest today, Neale Donald Walsch, author of Conversations with God. Welcome, Neale.

Neale: Thank you, Matt, and let me correct you right at the top of the show. I would not be called a “modern-day spiritual prophet,” and I hope that no one ever, ever, ever uses that label.

I think I would be called a modern-day spiritual messenger, and I think that there’s a huge nuance of difference between the word “messenger” and the word “prophet.”
The word “prophet” is largely understood to be applied to people who somehow know about the future or have some kind of insight, awareness or wisdom that is greater than anyone else. That would be the opposite of who I am.

On the other hand, a messenger is simply someone who walks into the room and hands you a telegram. Often, the message is not even written by him, but he carries a message from someone else.

That far more aptly and accurately describes who I am in the world, so let’s not say “Neale Donald Walsch, the prophet,” but I’m really fine with saying “Neale Donald Walsch, the messenger.”

Matt: Okay, “the messenger” you are. How did you end up having a conversation with God and writing a book about it? Can you tell that story, for anyone who hasn’t heard it?

Neale: Well, I ran into a period of time in my life when nothing was going well. My life was falling apart at every level-my health was going rapidly downhill, I had lost my employment and all hope for immediate employment.

I had lost my relationship with my significant other. Nothing was working in my life, so I
turned to God, as often we do in moments of sheer desperation. I called out, in the middle of the night, one day when I was awake at four o’clock in the morning.

I was walking around, pacing really, in the larger part of my house, in the darkness, and I
called out in my mind, “What does it take to make life work? What have I done to deserve a life of such continuing struggle?

Somebody, help me! Give me some rules-tell me the rules of the game here. I’ll play; I just need to have the rulebook.” It was at that point that I found a yellow legal pad on the coffee table in front of me.

I sat down on the couch, and by the moonlight, just picked up the yellow legal pad and began writing a very angry letter to God. Then I heard a voice-it was as simple as that-over my right shoulder, that said, “Neale, do you really want answers to all of these questions or are you just venting?”

With that, I began what has resulted in a 14-year conversation with God. That’s what I’ve chosen to call it. It’s an experience of communion, I think, with the place of higher wisdom that lies within all of us, and it is accessible by and available to all of us.

I have simply written down what I’ve experienced in my mind as a result of those connections and conversations, and put them in what has turned out to be a series of books that have caught the attention of apparently a large number of people in the world.

Over seven million people have read the Conversations with God books. They’ve been
translated into 34 languages.

Matt: So when you were going through this process, how did God communicate with you?

Neale: As I indicated, it was a voice that I heard, first in the room, and then in my mind. It comes to me as the voice of my own thoughts, if you please, and that’s really how that communication takes place. I will simply have a thought of my own, I’ll ask a question or look deeply into a topic, and suddenly, thoughts and words will come to me, and if I get them down on paper fast enough, they begin to make sense and have some consistency.

Now there have been 10 books produced by that method, which have an amazing continuity and consistency from the first book to the last. The most recent, and final, of those books is Home with God: In a Life That Never Ends.

Matt: I noticed in your second book you were talking about the process of engaging with God, and how sometimes, it can take quite a long time for the answers to come. Is this something where you sat at your desk and communicated with God, or is it something that comes to you all the time? I’m just curious to learn more about how that process of communication works.

Neale: The process, for me, does not take a long time, although there may be gaps or pauses in the process. If I ask a question and I really feel deeply connected with eternal wisdom, the answer comes immediately, like lightning. So it does not take a long time for the answer to come, but I have experienced that there have been, in my life, huge gaps in the process itself. That is, there may be times when I simply do not feel connected with eternal wisdom, with the Divine, if you will, and when I’m lacking that connection, then the process simply does not work. I have done two things in my life. One, I’ve done
whatever I can to stay connected with that source of divine wisdom. Number two, I’ve used that connection to continue to ask the kinds of questions that I think would most benefit the largest number of people.

Matt: Obviously, there are a lot of people in the world who claim to be in communication with God, and they’ve put forth various systems and theologies. It seems like there’s this view and that view of God. How do we actually discern what is really God’s communication from communication that comes from some other source?

Neale: By going within. The ultimate truth lies within, and all great spiritual teachers will tell us that. Only lesser spiritual teachers, including false teachers, will tell us that the truth lies outside of ourselves. Only false teachers will say, “Ultimately, listen to what I’m saying.” The true teachers will say, “Listen to what your Self - capital ‘S’ — is saying to the self. You may want to consider some of the words I have said, but ultimately, look inside and see if they ring true for you. If they don’t, then reject them.”

I tell everyone that, both in my books, and when I’m speaking about my books. If anything I’ve written does not feel true to you, then reject it quickly and out of hand.
On the other hand, if something I’ve said rings true to you and feels that it is in harmony with your own, deepest, inner truth, then embrace it at the next level; that is, fully embrace it and allow yourself to live it as fully as well.

Matt: Does that imply that we experience God in a relativistic kind of way, and that God doesn’t have any kind of objective reality, that there is no right and wrong?

Neale: There is no such thing as objective reality. Everything is subjective; that is, everything is experienced through you and nothing is experienced objectively, outside of you. Quantum physics is now making that very clear and has been making that clear for the past 25 or 30 years.

It is quantum physics, not new spirituality, that says, “Nothing that is observed is unaffected by the observer.” That is, everything that exists is affected and impacted by the person who is looking at it, depending on the way they’re looking at it, the angle from which they’re viewing it, the perspective they hold.

That is profoundly true and it is true in this case as well, but it’s not a spiritual truth
solely or exclusively; it’s a scientific truth as well.

Matt: One of the big questions you talk about in your book is: “If I am really talking to God, why don’t you prove yourself in some irrefutable way”…

Neale: Well, you see, there are no irrefutable ways. That’s the whole point of what I’ve just said. There are no irrefutable ways because there is no such thing as objectivity; that is, complete objectivity. Once again, everything that’s experienced is experienced by you, and you may experience it any way you wish because it is experienced through the filter that is you. You may experience it differently from the way I’m experiencing it, therefore,
everything I say is refutable by someone else.

Even if God came down, God would ask the question, “What way would you find irrefutable? I’ve already come down, I’ve already made my presence known, I’ve already made my reality (the reality of God) known in a million ways,” but there are a million people who would disagree with each of those ways and claim that it is not the truth.

So it looks as if you have to find your own way, which is, of course, what I’ve been telling you from the beginning!

Matt: You’re saying that God is constantly speaking to us, but we don’t listen.

Neale: Unless we do.

Matt: Unless we do! So how can we learn to listen more to God and to get more of God into our lives?

Neale: By wanting to. It’s not a question of learning- there’s nothing to learn. That’s like saying: How can we learn to love? Loving and listening to God are the same thing.
A baby doesn’t have to be taught how to love; a baby is taught how not to love, and we spend the rest of our lives teaching each other how not to love.

Loving and listening to God are the same thing, so the answer to your question is: we don’t have to learn how to listen to God, we simply have to choose to, and once we choose to, the way to do that will be made obvious to us. It will be right in front of us, and there will be a million ways. There isn’t only one way.

That’s why it’s not a simple thing to say, “This is how you can learn to do that,” because there is no one way to love, and there is no one way to listen to God. God will communicate with you every day, in a thousand different ways, from moment to
moment…the words to the next song you hear on the radio, the picture you see on the billboard when you turn the corner, the chance utterance of a friend on the street, words you hear in your mind, dreams you have, and a thousand other ways that God has devised with which to communicate with us.

Matt: Do you believe that God really has a personality that is capable of verbal communication?

Neale: God has a form and a shape that coincides with whatever we choose to imagine it to be. There is nothing that God is not. God is the essence of life itself, the most basic and fundamental energy in the universe.

In a sense, God is a shape shifter. That is, God, or that which we call God, the Essence of Supreme Intelligence in the universe, can take on any shape or form that pleases us from moment to moment.

So the answer to your question is yes and no. Yes, God is a personality that actually speaks to us. No, God is not that; God is the Essence of Life itself, the energy, the most fundamental essence of the universe. God is all of the above and can be excluded by no definition whatsoever.

Matt: In your books you talk about the fact that we tend not to see God in the profane, in the things which offend us.

Neale: That is correct.

Matt: A lot of people feel frustrated and could identify, I think, with what you were saying at the beginning of the book-feeling that somehow, God is trying to thwart them or prevent them from making progress or getting the things they want in their lives. Does God ever not answer prayers?

Neale: The idea of God as a Santa Claus in the sky who says ‘yes’ to some requests and ‘no’ to some others is a very elementary and primitive, simplistic view of God, as is the question that you’ve just asked a very elementary, primitive, simplistic question.

It isn’t God’s function to answer or to not answer prayers; it is God’s function to empower us to create what it is we choose to experience in our lives. Or, if we choose to place blockages in our own way, to stop ourselves from experiencing what we say we want to experience.

God’s job is not to create or uncreate anything, not to say yes or no to anything. God’s job (to use human terms), or the function of life, if you will, is to simply empower all
that life creates, to create more life in whatever way that life chooses. Life is a process that informs life about life through the process of Life Itself.

Matt: In that case, why is it that some prayers go unanswered? This is sounding a lot like your book at the moment.

Neale: Well, for the reason I just gave you. Prayers do not go unanswered. We create the outcomes that we create. Sometimes we create outcomes that coincide with what we say are our highest desires, and sometimes we create realities that do not coincide with what we claim to be our highest desires. That is, sometimes we say one thing and do another. It’s a very common human experience.

Matt: There seems to be a gap between making a request or trying to manifest a change that we want in our lives, or something we want to create, and that event actually taking place. In your view, is there anything that can be done to shorten that gap, or is that just a function of the way the universe works as well?

Neale: I don’t know that there has to be any length of time. Time is a function of our imagination, and I’m not convinced that there has to be a particular period of time that must pass between the time that we choose to call something forth and the time it manifests in our reality.

I don’t think that time is a necessary function of creation. The amount of time that passes is a matter of the degree of our knowing this around an outcome.

For instance, when we go into our bedroom and flick on a light switch, we don’t have to wait for 15 minutes or 15 years for the lights to go on because we know the light will go on, and we have ultimate and complete faith in that.

In fact, we go past faith; we go to a place of knowing. We are deeply aware, at a knowingness level, that the light switch is going to turn the lights on. Unless there’s a burnt-out bulb or some problem in the electrical system, the lights are going to go on.

So too, is it with certain other things as well in our lives, including our own reactions to
things and our own behaviors. However, to the degree that we wonder whether something is going to happen, to the degree that we are at question about it, to the degree that we doubt it for a second, to that degree we have created the experience of time passing. We cause ourselves to have to wait for the outcomes that we seek to manifest.

Spiritual Masters and Avatars, however, are said to have eliminated the experience of waiting. They seek a particular experience and call it forth at once, because they know that there’s no reason why that which they have chosen cannot be made manifest in the Instant Moment of Now.

Matt: One of the things you say in your book is that the process of actually asking for something implies that you don’t already have it, and that this approach - the very act of requesting - in effect pushes the thing you want away…

Neale: Well, of course, that’s true. You don’t ask for something you already have. You don’t wish for something you already own.

You don’t ask for glasses to be on your face if you are already wearing glasses. People who wear glasses (there’s not a person I know who wears glasses who has not done this) have laughed at themselves when they catch themselves looking for their glasses while they have their glasses on.

You don’t ask for things you already have. So the very act of asking for something actually moves us away from manifesting it, because you are announcing to the universe, which listens very carefully to your thought about something, that you do not now have it. This becomes your reality, because the universe doesn’t know from “time.” What you say Now is what is true for you Now, and it will continue to be true for you until you say something else.

Do you see now how powerful you are? God says, quite literally, “Your word in My command.”

But there are many things we have that we don’t know that we have; that is, it’s not in our present experience. We’ve lost our keys, we can’t find our gloves, we have the love of another but we’re not sure of it. So we don’t know we have these things. We have them, but we don’t know. We go to that person and say, “Do you love me?” and they say, “Of course I love you. You know I love you, I’ve told you that a thousand times. Why don’t you know that?” And we say, “I don’t know why I don’t know it, I just keep wanting to ask you.” What’s true here is that we can’t believe what someone else is telling us. We can’t believe, inside of us, that we are lovable, so how could someone else love us?

So there are many things we have that we don’t know we have. That’s called the Cloud of Unknowing. It’s when our vision is clouded. We want the plane to take off, but visibility is limited. We want our lives to really take off, but visibility is limited.

Masters, on the other hand, are those who already know that they have everything they could ever hope for or wish to experience, right here, right now. They can see that, because they have infinite visibility. They know that it is merely a question of choosing what they desire and then calling it forth from the sea of infinite possibility. And that’s the process by which Masters make manifest, in physical reality, whatever it is they wish to experience.

Matt: You say that God told you that the “sponsoring thought” is more important than the secondary thought that’s issuing the request.

Neale: That’s what I’m saying here. If we have a sponsoring thought — a deep-seated initial idea — that we already have what it is that we are not now experiencing, then we can experience it much more rapidly.

For instance, in matters of love, if your sponsoring thought is: “Love is mine.
Not only do I have love, I am love,” you will have the experience of that very rapidly. You will have the experience as soon as you choose to notice that you already are that and have that.

So it’s a matter of creating a sponsoring thought that produces the outcomes we wish to experience in our relative reality, relatively soon. Sponsoring thoughts - that is, deep-seated ideas about something - are usually your first thoughts about anything…but they do not have to be the last word on the subject. You can’t change a sponsoring thought, but you can add a new one. That’s where it becomes useful to say, “On second thought…”

When your first thought comes up for you and it is a sponsoring thought that you are not lovable, or that you are not abundant, or - and here’s a typical one - you are “never that lucky”, just say to your Self, “On second thought…”, and then have a new thought about it. You’ll find that you can get out of that stagnant place and really move some energy around if you’ll let yourself seriously entertain that new thought. That’s why this is called the New Thought Movement.

So if you think that you can’t have something that you really want, or that the world will never change, or that life is just what it is and isn’t going to get much better…well, think again. Create a new sponsoring thought. Thoughts sponsor reality, so create a new sponsoring thought.

Matt: And you say that there are two kinds of sponsoring thoughts - fear and love - is that correct?

Neale: Yes. Basically all thought reduces itself to fear or love, and all reality arises from one of those two very basic and fundamental vibrations. There are only two basic vibrations, and those are the two. Everything else is a variation on the theme.

Matt: Well, if God is love, then there’s the question of why did He create something bad, like fear?

Neale: God created a relative experience, a relative world. He created the realm of relativity, in which all things exist in relationship to themselves, across a grand scale.
It’s like saying if God created warm, then why did he create cold? He didn’t create cold. In a sense, he didn’t create warm either. He just created the thing called Temperature. That’s what God created. God created a reality in which everything exists in varying degrees. It is we who have called those things ‘good’ or ‘bad.’

If we can agree that God did not create warm, but rather, temperature, which is the first level of creation, then we simple look at: What temperature is it? Is it 90 degrees outside? Is it 30 degrees Celsius? What temperature is it? Or is it very cold? And is that ‘good’ or ‘bad’? And those are judgments that we will make.

I am using a simple example here, to make a point. ‘Temperature’ is the elementary essence, to use this simple example, of the things that are. And so, too, it is on the Scale of Good and Evil. God did not create ‘good’ and God did not create ‘evil’. Those are human inventions and human definitions. God simply created That Which Is, and it is we who have created ‘good’ and ‘evil’ by calling it that.

By the way, we change that creation from time to time. That is, we call things evil that were not evil years ago. We call things good that we did not call good years ago. So even our scale changes and shifts from time to time. We are, in fact, the creators of our own reality, and we are calling things exactly what we choose for them to be.

Shakespeare put it perfectly: “Nothing is evil lest thinking make it so.”

Matt: How do you see the messages of Conversations with God applying to life “on the ground” in the world today?

Neale: The message of God is very simple, direct and clear: We are all one. There’s only one of us, and the idea of separation and what God calls “separation theology” is what is creating the largest number of our problems in the world, and nearly all of our conflicts as well. This is because separation theology produces separation sociology, which ultimately produces separation pathology; that is, a pathological behavior that causes us to treat each other different from how we would treat ourselves.

If we make that one, single shift in consciousness and we’ll heal the world virtually overnight. And that’s something that most people are aware of, at some level, but don’t seem to be able to know how to apply as a functioning, practical truth in their day-to-day lives.

What is needed, therefore, is a new kind of spirituality, and the message of Conversations
with God is that such a new spirituality could now be very beneficial on the earth. I am talking about a new understanding of God and of what God wants; a new understanding of life and what life really is; a new awareness of ourselves, who we really are, and what our right relationship is to each other, to God and to all of life…

Those new understandings, generated by a new spirituality, could change the world. It would be impossible, to put it another way, for the people in the world to treat each other the way they’re treating each other, if they thought that they were treating themselves in that way. But they don’t. They see the so-called “enemy” as “other” than themselves. In fact, in some cases, they see their enemy even as sub-human, or as not human, as the infidel, as the apostate, as the person who deserves to be killed or eliminated
because they’re not even human in some ways.

So a fundamental shift must take place, this the Conversations with God books make very clear. We must shift our consciousness and create a new cultural story that redefines ourselves and who we are in relationship to each other, to life and to the thing that we call God, Allah or Brahman or Yahweh, or whatever it is that we choose to give as a name for All That Is.

Matt: Yes, it seems to be happening. A lot of people talk about a huge shift in consciousness that’s going on.

Neale: Well, it better happen much faster and on a much broader scale. I know that it seems to be happening, but I think that what has to occur now is a speed-up in that process, an exponential increase in this whole process. If we don’t see that, if we don’t create it, then life as we know it on this planet could well be eliminated before we can put the solution into place.

There is a great force now in the universe that is a working-it is the extremist force, on the extreme left and the extreme right of all the political, social, economic and
spiritual questions of our time.

These are extremists whose views are not merely unusual or revolutionary, but in fact, extreme, and these are people who believe that violence is an appropriate means to resolve the differences that exist across the spectrum of human thought.

It is these extremists that have created much of the terror that we find in the day-to-day lives of our world.

Matt: When you face that kind of extremism, it’s difficult to know what to do. How do you face that when you come across it?

Neale: We have to get uncomfortable again. The comfortable are the damned, in a sense. That’s an old saying and I think it’s true…the comfortable are the damned.
That is, they are condemned to lives of mediocrity. It is a sad truth that most people live
unexceptional lives because they’re so comfortable; that is, most people, at least in
certain parts of the world. It’s not true of the largest number of people on the planet, but it is the uncomfortable who agitate, and always will. And it is the extremists among the uncomfortable who will take that agitation to extreme lengths in order to make the comfortable uncomfortable.

So what we have to do is get uncomfortable without being made uncomfortable.
That is to say, we need to be uncomfortable right now without having to have violence forced upon us in order to become uncomfortable. It’s a sad observation that not enough people are uncomfortable with the fact that 400 children die an hour of starvation on this planet. Not enough people are uncomfortable with the fact that 500,000 people have been killed in Darfur, and over two million have been forced out of their homes. It’s a sad fact that not enough people are uncomfortable with the oppression of the masses, with the prejudice that occurs in all parts of the world.

With the way things are, we are just too comfortable and we do not look at the suffering
in the world, and we have become wildly self-indulgent and self-congratulatory and comfortable.

So the solution is going to have to be, for those who are comfortable, to find a level of
discomfort sufficient to motivate them to get up, walk across the room and actually do something, rather than simply think or talk about it with regard to the people in the world who are not comfortable. Otherwise, the uncomfortable will become extreme in their reaction, and will change the world very quickly into a kind of place where none of us are
comfortable any more, ever again. That’s the place where we are right now in our world.

All that will change that is a new outlook, and then a determination to do something about it, not just “om” ourselves to death or sit in front of a candle, breathe deeply and
play nice, soft music and talk about how nice the world really is, but actually to get out on the street where the rubber meets the road, and start making on-the-ground alterations and changes in our day-to-day life.

That’s where it’s going to have to happen, because that’s where the terror is happening.
Matt: Isn’t the feeling uncomfortable, though, part of the problem, because if we’re focusing on negative aspects of experience, are we not just creating more of that? Is it not the solution to focus more on the positive changes that we want?

Neale: Yes, but the positive changes in what? You can’t change nothing, you can only change something, therefore you have to be thinking about what you want to change. That means you’ve got to be aware of what you want to change.

Focusing on the uncomfortable is not what we’re talking about here. We’re talking about noticing the uncomfortable truths and then focusing on the way we want things to be. But if you want to focus on the positive, if you want to focus on the changes you wish to make, you have to know what you’re trying to change. What are you trying to change? In order to know what you’re trying to change, you’ve got to think about that. You’ve got to think about the bad things in the world that are going on because those are the things you want to change. You just can’t say, “I want to change…I can’t mention what I want to
change, because that would be focusing on the negative. But I want to change something, I know that. I want to change something.” No, you have to actually say, “I want to change prejudice. I want to change the oppression of people. I want to change the conditions that create starving children.”

You’ve got to look at that and say, “That’s what I want to change.” Part of the problem in the new-age community is that we get into this idea that we’ve got to focus only on the positive, only on the positive - be the change you wish to see - only on the positive. But changing what? Even positive thinkers have got to say, “Okay, there is a train coming down the tracks.” That’s just what’s so. Now, do we want to get off the tracks or do we want to throw more people on the tracks? What do we want to do?

Matt: So we first need to appreciate and really understand where we are now before we can help to change something.

Neale: We have to be aware of what we already have created. The process is really quite simple. We are all creating our own reality, that is true, but in order to change the reality we have created and make it different in the future, we have to acknowledge, at the very
least, what we have created in our most recent past.

To observe that the train is coming is not to put it there. If I observe that a train is coming, I’m not actually creating it. People say, “Don’t say that, don’t say that. Are you trying to create that?” Whoa, wait a minute, I’m not creating anything, I’m just observing it. If I observe that a train is coming, I haven’t crated it, I’ve simply observed that it was
created already, it’s already on the way. In a past moment, that was created. Yes, it was me who created it, but that was Then and this is Now.

In the Now I have a whole different decision. Given that the train coming down the tracks has already been created, what do I now wish to create? What is the best way to do it? Id I want to create a new future, is the best way to create that to ignore the train that’s coming, or to get out of its way?
Matt: Get out of its way.

Neale: Of course, obviously. So we have to first observe what we have created in our past, including in our most recent past. We can’t ignore it and we can’t put our heads in the sand like an ostrich and pretend it’s not there. We have to notice what’s there and then say, “Now, what do I choose?” So I have a bit of impatience with people who say, “Don’t talk about that, don’t say anything negative!”

Matt: Really? Impatience?

Neale: Yes, of course. Just like Jesus in the temple, when he took out a rope and tied knots in it and drove the money changers out of the temple. ‘You vipers!’ he said,
‘You hypocrites!’ I would call that a little impatient. And he was called the greatest Master of all time by some people. So if it’s good enough for Christ, it’s good enough for me.

Matt: Was that not righteous anger?

Neale: What’s the difference between righteous anger and impatience? How many angels fit on the end of a pin? Let’s split words in half.

Matt: Okay, I’m just throwing it out there for further discussion.

Neale: Sure, and I’m willing to discuss it with you. Let’s talk about it. What’s the difference between impatience and righteous indignation or righteous anger? It’s the same thing. In fact, the motto of my group of 1,000 is “be impatient.” I think that righteous anger leads to impatience, or impatience leads to righteous anger - it’s all a circle, getting to the same place. But there’s nothing wrong with impatience. All great masters have become impatient. There’s nothing wrong with anger. Anger is one of the five natural emotions. It’s what you do with your anger that matters. If you use anger to fuel your earnest desire for change, and to work hard to make change happen, then anger is good, anger is powerful. If you use anger to hurt other people, to lash out, to attack, to destroy, rather than to rebuild in a new way, then anger may not be so good.

Gandhi’s impatience with British rule over India created an entirely new nation-state. Martin Luther King Jr.’s impatience with prejudice in the United States created the civil rights movement. I’m all for impatience.

Matt: I suppose it depends upon the spirit in which that impatience is expressed.

Neale: Of course; everything does. That is true of every single thought one has. That is correct.

Matt: All of these things we’re talking about apply to our personal lives as much as they do to the entire planet.

Neale: Indeed, because we are all one, and that is what is true.

Matt: A lot of the beliefs we’ve grown up with teach us that God has a plan for our lives already, before we were born. Some people say that we came here, we chose who are parents were going to be, et cetera…

Neale: We did do that. That doesn’t mean we had a plan. Choosing the colors of your palette doesn’t mean you know what picture you want to paint. So we do choose the colors of our palette, very definitely. We choose the colors of our palette with each
entry into life. We still have the paintbrush and the canvas is blank. We have no idea of the picture we’re going to paint; we simply know the colors we’re going to use. And even then, we create new colors along the way by mixing some of the colors on our palette.
“Don’t mix yellow and blue-you’re going to get green!” I intend to get green, thank you very much; please step aside. So in fact, we do choose the colors of our palette, we do choose our parents, we do choose things, I’m told, like our place of birth or our racial composition or our nationality and those kinds of things, from life to life and from moment to moment, in the eternity of now. But that does not mean we have a plan in mind, nor does it mean that God has a plan in mind. God just says, “Here are the tools for your next lifetime,” and the palette is empty and the space is clear. What do you now choose to create? Interesting analogy, isn’t it?

Matt: So there is no plan, there is no map for us to follow. It’s all our choice in what we’re supposed to do?

Neale: Not even what we’re supposed to do, because supposing to do something would indicate that there’s some kind of plan. It is what we choose to do, what we wish to do.

Matt: Is it possible, do you think, to choose to do something which is wrong?

Neale: Right and wrong don’t exist. Right and wrong are relative terms. Relative to what? “Wrong” relative to what, in relationship to what? Is killing wrong? It all depends on why we’re doing it, doesn’t it? If you’re killing someone to rob a bank or because you’re jealous of your lover, that would be considered, by some people, wrong. If you’re
killing someone to save your two-month-old baby from being stabbed in the chest by a maniac who has come into your house in the middle of the night, some people would call that right.

So right and wrong don’t exist. Those are relative terms - relative to what we’re trying to do. So of course it’s possible to do something wrong by someone’s definition. It’s also possible to do something right by someone’s definition, by doing the exact same thing.
Isn’t that interesting? What a conundrum. What an adventure this thing called life is.

Matt: It certainly is. It’s difficult to know, sometimes, what the best thing to do, or what…

Neale: It’s not difficult to know what the best thing to do is when you know what you’re trying to accomplish. So what we have to be clear on is: What are we trying to accomplish?

For instance, to use a simple example, are we trying to accomplish a thing called peace in the world? If we say we are, then perhaps we might want to reconsider whether we can do that by dropping bombs. That is, is it possible to solve a problem by using the same energy that created the problem? Einstein said no, and I think Einstein was right.

You don’t solve the problem of violence with violence. You don’t solve the problem of hatred with more hatred. It’s pretty simple when you think about it.

Matt: I suppose it’s difficult if people have been locked into a certain way of being, or there’s been a circle of violence or we’ve lived a certain way for so long that that’s all we’ve known, or it seems that’s all we’ve known.

Neale: Yes, that’s exactly right. It is difficult. I agree with you completely. It is difficult when that’s all we’ve known, which is why what is needed now in the world is to know something new. That is, to change our minds about God, about life, about each other, about why we’re here and about how life could best function.

We need a new cultural story. We need to write a brand-new cultural story, and that is what is needed now on the planet. So what is needed is really a whole system of education that could provide such a cultural story, such a brand-new thought about the world and how it is, and could give us a different basis from which to proceed as we choose to create our lives in the future.

You’re right; if we have had no other experiences except the experiences that you mentioned, if we’re stuck in our story from yesterday, then it is going to be very difficult to create a new tomorrow. Yet, a new tomorrow can be created if we are willing to create a new story.

I would say that the future is very bright, but it is not going to be changed by going back to our yesterdays. The bright future of our tomorrow will not be found over our shoulder, but over the horizon.

Matt: Hopefully people like you and I can do something and help to change the consciousness of everything and bring about an improvement.

Neale: That is the great invitation that life sends to life itself, for regular people just like you and me to do exactly that, and we are able to do exactly that. It has only been people like you and me who have, in fact, done exactly that.

People who live exceptional lives are not necessarily exceptional people. They’re just
ordinary people like you and me. Martin Luther King Jr. was a regular person. Gandhi was just a regular person. He wasn’t born on another planet, he wasn’t anointed personally by God. He didn’t receive some sort of special gift from the universe. He was a regular person like you and me. Mother Teresa was a regular lady, like a whole bunch of other people on this planet, but ordinary people doing extraordinary things - that’s
what now will change the world.

Matt: Neale Donald Walsch, thank you very much for getting on the phone with me today. It’s been interesting and enlightening. Thank you very much. I really appreciate it.

Neale: You’re very welcome.

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Neal Donald Walsh
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The CwG Weekly Bulletin is prepared by Neale Donald Walsch, m.Claire, Geek Squared, LEP Graduates and other friends.

My dear friends…

Last week in this space I offered the opinion that the challenge for human beings these days is to take the individual decisions that most of us have already made about ourselves and apply them in our lives fully, fearlessly, absolutely, and completely. The challenge is to walk our talk, and to do so in such a way that there can be no mistake about our innermost thoughts and choices about who we are, where we are, why we are where we are, and what we are doing here.

I said that we would talk about the first of those questions in this issue of the Bulletin - so let’s get to it. First, let me say that these are the Four Fundamental Questions of Life. Until we answer these questions, very little in our life will make much sense — at least, not for very long. We can get through a day or a week, or even a month, just moving through our life and looking at what’s coming next. But if we want a truly fulfilling life, one that seems to be going somewhere and getting something done and accomplishing and achieving something on some kind of grander scale, we are going to have to ask and answer these questions.

Now I made the point last week that it doesn’t matter how we answer them. In other words, there is no “right answer.” Each of us will create the answer that feels true to us. But we must create some kind of answer, because our answer becomes the Road Map of Our Lives. Because answering those questions gives us a larger sense of identity; of where we are and why; of what we are doing here in the first place. And that, in turn, gives direction and purpose to our lives.

In my own conversation with God I asked these Four Fundamental Questions, and the answer I received to the first question was:

“You are an Individuation of Divinity. There is only One Thing, and all things are part of the One Thing That Is. Life is God, expressing Itself. You are a part of life, therefore, you are a part of God. The only way this could not be true would be if Life and God were somehow separate. Such a thing is impossible.”

This is a very large statement. If we look deeply into its implications, and if we make a commitment to apply the true and full meaning of this statement in our everyday life, our everyday life would change dramatically.

Imagine if you really thought that you were a part of God. I mean, not just conceptually, or theoretically, but actually. If you thought that were actually true, you have to change your thinking, no? On a lot of things. Would you agree?

For instance, you could never imagine your needing anything ever again. You would suddenly see yourself as the Source of all that you would desire, rather than the Seeker of it. And if you really experienced yourself as the Source of it, you would spend no more time trying to find it, but rather, you would spend your time trying to find a way to give it away — so that others may have it, too.

(It is not a coincidence that this is what every true master has ever done.)

Yet here is the irony: It would be in the giving of it that you would experience the having of it — for it is axiomatic in the Universe that you cannot give what you do not already know yourself to have. Therefore, the act of giving to others what you, yourself, wish to receive causes you to experience that you already have it.

The truth is, you already have all of everything that you could possibly desire — you just don’t know it. You don’t “real-ize” it. That is, you don’t “make it real” in your life, because it is your imagining that you do not possess it. Giving it away causes you to instantly understand that you possess it.

This changes your whole life.

I am here to tell you that everything your mind could imagine that your soul could possibly want, your soul already has in profusion. All you have to do to experience that is to give it away.

This is why every religion on the face of the earth has its own version of the Golden Rule. Do, they all say, unto others as you would have it done unto you. Not because this is a nice thing to do. Not because God wants us to do this. No. Do unto others as you would have it done unto you because this is how the Universe works. This is the mechanism of life. It is how everything happens. What we send out, we get back. Because we are God.

And that is just one way that Who You Are can and will change your life, if you decide that Who You Are is Divinity Individuated. Next week, a look at another aspect of this. If you believe that Who You Are is God, “particularized”, then you will necessarily conclude that it is impossible for you to be damaged or hurt in any way. And THAT has extraordinary implications for your life…

All of which we will look at in our next Weekly Bulletin! Until then, pass this on…and have a wonderful week.

Love and Hugs,
Neale.

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The CwG Reader

Further explorations of the Conversations with God material from the author

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Neale Donald Walsch through the years has given hundreds of talks and written scores of articles revolving around the messages he received in his Conversations with God. Now, every seven days, we will present in this space a transcript or reprint of those presentations. We invite you to Copy and Save each one of them, creating a personal a collection of contemporary and uplifting spiritual thought which you may reference at any time. We hope you will find this a constant source of insight and inspiration.

This week’s offering: The second of three reflections on relationships offered in a series of commentaries during the days preceding Valentine’s Day, 2007. This commentary will continue next week because the subject deserves all the attention we can give it.

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The Same Person
Many people marry or partner with the same person throughout their adult lives. Some people actually remain with the same human being, other people partner with several different human beings over the years, but it is the same person.
Many people remove themselves from relationships because they are not going well, not serving either partner, really, but then go out and create a new relationship with the exact same person merely wearing a new body. There is a different human being in the room, but not a different person…if you know what I mean.
I know a woman who has married the same man three times. Each guy was different, but exactly the same. (In this case, they were all alcoholic abusers, sorry to say.)
Why do we do this? Why do some people “marry their parents,” as the saying goes? Why do others choose the same kind and type of person to be their spouse or life partner over and over again? Some say it is to pay off a karmic debt. But Conversations with God says there is not such thing as karmic debt. There is, however, a Cosmic Wheel; a cycle of life that brings us back to the same starting point, and that gives us an eternity of opportunities to heal/experience what we choose to work with in our physical lives.
There is a way to break this chain, however. It is not necessary to keep running into the same problem in every relationship. It is possible to find and create a new kind of relationship, where we finally give ourselves a break from the age-old pattern. A relationship that is happy, healthy, and fine. The relationship of our dreams.
Yes, it is possible to have-find-create such a relationship.

Step One: Get Clear on the Reason
The first step in finding-creating-having the relationship of our dreams is to get clear with ourselves about the real reason to enter into a relationship to begin with.
The purpose of relationship, CwG tells us, is not to find a person who can meet all or most of our needs, but to experience ourselves in the most extraordinary way…which is, basically, a person who has no needs.
Our relationship with everything was designed as the perfect vehicle through which we might announce and declare, experience and express, fulfill and become the next grandest version of the greatest vision ever we held about Who We Are.
We cannot do this in a vaccuum. We can only do this in relationship to someone or something else. Therefore it could be said that, in a sense, all other people, places, and events exist so that we can create this experience of and for ourselves. Indeed, we call these people, places, and events into our lives for that precise reason.
They call us into their lives for the very same reason. We are all co-creating together, collaborating in the biggest enterprise the Universe has ever seen: God, godding!
We cannot enter into this experience with the most beneficial results, however, if we have not taken the Second Step necessary to the creation of all fulfilling relationships. Fascinatingly, this is a step that most people fail to take, have never taken, and have in many cases never even heard about.

Step Two:
Life’s Biggest Decision
The Second Step necessary to the creation of all fulfilling relationships is, fascinatingly, a step that most people fail to take, have never taken, and have in many cases never even heard about.
You must decide Who You Are and who you Choose To Be.
Very few people do this. Very few. Over the past two decades I have counseled privately and in group sessions with well over 15,000 people. Most of them have had issues in one of three areas: prosperity, relationship, life purpose. Nothing surprising there, because there isn’t much else going on…however, here is something that, at first, did surprise me:
Virtually none of the people who were coming to me had any idea what in the world they were trying to do with their life. They had no thoughts about their True Identity, no clarity about The Process of Life, and in no insight into the Journey of the Soul upon which they were embarked.
They had not made the most basic life decision: they had not decided who they are or who they chose to be. This made it extraordinarily difficult to live their lives in any rewarding or fruitful manner. They were like children running around with blindfolds on, playing Pin the Tail on the Donkey. They kept walking into walls and bumping into the furniture of their lives. They were getting nowhere, and tiring themselves out doing it. This led to anger, frustration, emotional upset, unexplained outbursts, and an underlying sea of discontent and disharmony upon which they set sail, hoping to reach the distant shore of goals they had not even set for their lives.
Very little in their lives seemed to be working, least of all their most important relationships. Flailing about in this sea of discontent, they reached out to others in the hopes of saving themselves from drowning. But rather than finding themselves being pulled out of their discontent and dysfunction, they pulled others into it along with them.
Relationships — and, most significantly, romantic relationships — can never work optimally in the long run if they are entered into for the wrong reason. They can seem to work, but even those relationships that appear to be providing some modicum of happiness are only touching the surface of what is truly possible in a Sacred Relationship that is entered into for the true purpose of the souls.
There is only one reason to enter into a relationship, and that has to do with providing oneself the opportunity to announce and declare, experience and express, become and fulfill our highest notion of who we really are.
Masters enter into all relationships — from the most casual and seemingly insignificant to the most intimate and important — not as someone who seeks to receive, but as someone who seeks to give. And what it is that they seek to give is the Essence of who they really are. Masters do this not for altruistic reasons (that is, to please the other and to serve the other), but for self-creating reasons (that is, to experience the Self as Who They Choose to Be). The irony is that by accomplishing the second, they accomplish the first as well. They do please and serve the other.
We can do the same as Masters do…yet if we have not decided who we really are, there is no way that we can express the Essence of that.
Therefore, the second step in creating fulfilling relationships is the making of the most important decision one could ever make: Who am I, and who do I choose to be, in relationship not only to this other person, but to all of life?
This decision will set the course of our lives. It identifies the shore to which we would set sail. It creates the target. It becomes the destination. And no matter how stormy the sea becomes, it is our safe harbor — one which we cannot fail to reach — for it draws us to it like a magnet. The attraction of the Self to the Self’s highest idea about the Self cannot be overcome by the momentary storms of day-to-day encounters with life.
This does not mean that we will never “end” a relationship — or that we never should. It does mean that we will enter them and “end” them for entirely different reasons than we might have used as our summons before. It does mean that our relationships can be healthier than they have ever been. Even those that we are changing can be healthy, for a change in the nature of a relationship need not lead to anger and upset, sadness or frustration, and need not produce the experience of damage or hurt.
I have put the word “end” in quotation marks in the above paragraph because it is important to understand that one never truly “ends” any relationship, but merely changes its form.

Step Three:
Understanding
Relationship’s Forms
It is not really possible to end any human relationship.
That is because there is no such thing as “time” and there is no such thing as “another”.
These are very advanced spiritual/metaphysical concepts, and the average person may face a challenge in wrapping his or her thoughts around such ideas. Embracing or accepting such thoughts as one’s innermost reality can change one’s life in an instant. It can certainly change one’s experience of relationship.
Relationships, in the normal human understanding of that word, take many forms. In advanced spiritual understanding, relationships take only one form, for there is only one form of relationship: the relationship that one has with the Self.
There is no one else but the Self. There is no other time but the Present. In the Present and Only Moment of Now, I Am All There Is.
I am aware that saying such a thing could be seen as remarkably narcissistic and arrogant is not considered in a spiritual context. I am aware that saying such a thing even in a spiritual context to an audience that does not understand or accept the context which is being embraced would also be considered unbelievably arrogant. Perhaps even blasphemous.
Therefore, I say these things here with some caution, presuming to be speaking to an audience that fully understands, fully accepts, fully embraces, and attempts to fully practice the messages of Conversations with God.
Given that there was no one but the Self — that God is all there is — everything we do with and for another we do with and for the Self…and everything we fail to do with and for another we fail to do with and for the Self. Our awareness of this changes, for us, the entire nature of relationships. It alters our understanding of how we are invited by Life to “be” with each other. Indeed, it changes the whole purpose of our relationship with every person and every thing.
The purpose then becomes quite simple: to create the Self, to express the Self, to experience the Self, to become the Self in One’s Total Experience. By Total Experience I mean one’s spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relative, and absolute experience.
Relationships, in the normal human understanding of the word, take many forms, as I have said. It is not necessary to take or retain any form in order to retain one’s True Identity. It is not necessary to function within the framework of any particular relationship form in order for the relationship with the Self to be fully developed and totally realized in the ever-present moment of Now.
Given the True Nature of our Identity, we are always in relationship with everything that exists. Therefore it is impossible for us to either “begin” or “end” any relationship. When, in normal human terms, we say we are going to “end” a relationship, what we mean is that we are going to change the form of that relationship. We are going to change the way we experience it. We are going to change the way we are creating it.
This is important for us to understand, because if we think that we are ever going to end a relationship, we are mistaken. You will always, and forever, have a relationship with every person with whom you have ever had any kind of relationship at all. (Which means, of coure, everybody on the planet.) You cannot “end a relationship.” You can only change the way it is being created and experienced.
Likewise, you cannot “begin a relationship” or “enter into a relationship.” You can only create and experience your relationship with any other person, place, or thing in a new way. That is, in a way in which you have not experienced it heretofore.
When you approach a person you have never “met” (encountered in physical form in this present lifetime), you may therefore wish to ask yourself a simple question: How do I now wish to recreate my relationship with this “new” person in my life?
Remembering that the True and Only Purpose of relationship is to announce and declare, express and fulfill, experience and become Who You Really Are… there can be only two questions that are asked with regard to human relationships:
1. Where am I going?
2. Who is going with me?
Do not invert the order of the questions.
Do not — under any circumstances — invert the order of the questions.
Is that clear?
Are you clear about that?

Good. Then we can move on.

(Next week: The last in this series of reflections on relationship)

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MONEY - LOVE - SEX - GOD

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